Families can often drive themselves crazy trying to find a reason for their child’s bed wetting ( nocturnal enuresis) other than bedwetting is a sleep problem, that is a problem with the child not being able to rouse from their sleep if they need to wee during the night.
- Is NOT a psychological problem.(something wrong with the child)
- Is NOT an environmental problem.( bedroom too cold, moving house)
- Is NOT their fault nor yours, although some families have a genetic disposition to bedwetting.( your marriage broke down)
- Is NOT a direct result of drinking too much water before bed.( they should be able to wake up if they need a wee)
The cause and effect will come up in conversation, parents desperately wanting to “blame” or find an excuse and then they will be able to solve the problem of bedwetting. These excuses vary greatly, but are all incorrect in trying to solve the bedwetting problem.
Stress is one of the most asked questions as to the cause of bedwetting.When people are stressed, the stressors of the day will either send them into a deep sleep or they may have trouble falling asleep. If the child is prone to wetting, they will wet the bed. Research shows that when successfully treated, anxiety in children is greatly reduced. Parents will blame their separation, while this is hard and stress for all, it is not a cause for bedwetting.Unfortunately many families go through this and not all the children from divorced parents are wetting.
Bedwetting is due to the inability to rouse from sleep. Parents report their child is a “deep sleeper”. While this is true, the fact is we all sleep the same, it’s the rousing from sleep that is the problem when a child or teenager needs to wake overnight.
Bedwetting can be an inherited trait.There is a 40% chance of a child wetting the bed and an 80% chance if both parents wet the bed as children.
It is true that more boys wet the bed than girls with the statistic being 3 boys -1 girls
On rare occasions children may find they wet the bed more often in times of increased stress within the family such as a new baby, parental separation etc.